In this section of Marital Moments, I will conclude the thoughts on "An Honor-able Marriage". Previously, I gave you three things about an Honorable Marriage: The Meaning Of An Honorable Marriage, The Characteristics Of A Dishonorable Marriage, and The Qualities Of An Honorable Marriage. I will focus today on the Qualities of An Honorable Marriage. If you would highly value and respect your mate and set him or her on a pedestal, you must possess some sound principals by which you conduct your life. Notice the qualities of an honorable marriage. (1) An Honorable Marriage Is One In Which Both Husband And Wife Give Them-selves To The Lord. In Romans 12:1 God ask that "ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God ". No marriage can ever be what it should be until both partners give themselves to God. God ask not only for our souls that He might save them but He also ask for our bodies that He might keep us from sin and all its consequences. In our bodies is where the old sinful nature resides. The evil desires, passions, and lust. God wants us to give Him everything. He desires for us to live right at all times, in all places, and among all people. He ask that we place our all on the altar. To surrender our lives to Him. His desire is that we might pray, read our Bibles, worship, and attend Church with our family. The closer we are to God and the more our lives are surrendered the greater the potential for a successful and peaceful marriage. Always keep in mind that sin destroys. Sin has consequence and it tears homes apart. (2) An Honorable Marriage Is One In Which You Appreciate Your Differences. Romans 12:4-8 states that the body of Christ contains many members and each member has a different function. All Christians have a job to do for God but not all believers do the same thing. We are different by design. Aside from the obvious and visible dif-ferences we must understand that we think differently, we see the world different-ly, we have different levels of compassion, mercy, kindness, and love. We have different physical needs, different desires, hopes, dreams, and ambitions. Often these differences create arguments. We are two different individuals struggling to function together as a unit. If we were just alike in thought, word, and deed it would be an exceedingly dull world. Instead of focusing on our differences we should work together to accomplish greater things together then we ever could apart or alone. (3) A Honorable Marriage Possess Genuine Love. In Romans 12:9 the Bible says, "Let love be without dissimulation". Love must be genuine. The word "love" in the Greek language is the word agape. It is unconditional, unending, and sacrificial love. It is love without hypocrisy. It is love that will not let you go. It never thinks of separation or divorce. This kind of love centers on the needs and welfare of the one loved and will pay any price whatever, however, and whenever it is needed. Genuine love seeks only good for the one loved. It never tears down or destroys. It builds up and edifies. (4) An Honorable Mar-riage Is Patient In Tribulation. Romans 12:12 states that we should be, "Patient in tribulation". This verse is mainly speaking about tribulation associated with being a Christian. However, I would like to apply it to the marital relationship. Each marriage will have trouble, pressure, pain, sorrow, sickness, aging parents, and job pressures. It will experience family problems and financial pressures. As believers we are called upon to be patient in tribulation. We don't give up and quit when troubles come. We stay together and work our way through the difficult times. Divorce is not an option. All of us have heard stories of a husband or wife who walked off during a time of crises in the family. Your problems can drive you apart or drive you into each other's arms. The choice is yours. In the difficult, trying times you must love each other more, communicated more, and seek the help and advice of someone who is able to help you. (5) An Honorable Marriage Will Meet Each Others Needs. In Romans 12:13 we are commanded to "Distri-bute to the necessity of the saints". If the Bible requires us to do that for other believers, how much more must we do that for our husband or wife? Each partner has needs. Individual needs that they cannot meet alone. They need their spouse to meet those needs for them. You should do everything in your power to meet every legitimate need of your partner. Don't withhold anything that would help your mate. (6) An Honorable Marriage Will Dwell Together In Unity. Romans 12:16 states, "Be of the same mind one toward another". As married couples we must have the same mind about things in life. Unity in the home drives away the arguments, the independent steaks within us, and the angry words and pouting attitudes. Unity gives strength to the marriage. And unity helps to overcome the world, flesh and the devil. Without unity your home will fail. An Honorable Marriage is certainly obtainable but you must constantly work to achieve that goal. Give your marriage your total and undivided attention and it will pay rich dividends in the days to come.
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