Today I will finish the lesson on "The Qualities Of A Good Husband". I have used the life of Elkanah found in I Samuel chapter one as an example of a good husband. I have previously noted that Elkanah is a loving husband, he is talkative, understanding, possessing leadership, discernment, and an attitude of concern for his wife, Hannah, and his family. The final qualities that I see in Elkanah are that he is committed, kind and considerate, and that he is a spiritual husband. (1) Elka-nah is A Committed Husband. I Samuel 1:3 states that, "this man went up out of his city yearly to worship". Verse seven again stresses the same thing when it points out that, "He did so year by year". The thought I desire to stress is that Elkanah was committed for the long haul. He hung in there year after year. He did not run away when the going got rough. He didn't seek a divorce simply because things did not turn out like he planned. Sadly, to many husband start out well but lose interest over time. They are great during the dating process but they are terrible at marriage. They take their wife for granted. They ignore her needs. They become argumentative. They become more interested in sports, careers, or other objects of pursuit. The important ingredient that they are missing is com-mitment. When a husband is committed to his wife, his family, and his God, he will continue in the marriage even when things are difficult and tough. The wife needs a husband that will be there through thick and thin. One who will honor his marriage vows. A husband that can be counted on in the bad times as well as the good times. In fact a husband should become better as the years go by. There needs to be in his heart a commitment to improving as a husband as well as a father. (2) Elkanah is A Kind And Considerate Husband. In I Samuel 1:8 he expresses this important thought to Hannah: "Am I not better to thee than ten sons"? Having children was a cherished dream for Hannah. Elkanah knew this and he lets her know that she is special, important, and that he is doing all that he can to be kind and considerate to her. He is not bragging, but he recognizes that he is doing a good job as a husband. Like Elkanah, you know when you are doing good and when you are failing. Elkanah works hard at being a great husband. Husbands in all generations must make marriage a top priority if they are to suc-ceed at it. You must express your love for her often. You must meet her needs, You must be faithful. A good husband must compliment his wife. He needs to state often his appreciation for all the wonderful things she is doing for him and his children. A simple thank you is always appreciated for the wife's cooking, wash-ing, cleaning, taking care of children, and for helping make a living. A husband should be such a wonderful man that the wife can honestly say that he is better to me than my most cherished dream. (3) Elkanah is A Spiritual Husband. I Samuel 1:3 states that, "This man went up out of his city yearly to worship and to sacrifice unto the Lord". One of the greatest things that can be said about Elkanah is that he both loves and serves the Lord. He is godly man. God is first in his life. His devotion to God is exemplary. The children, the wife, and the world needs to see a husband that honors God above all else in life. A good husband is not only a good Christian, but he lives his Christianity both at Church and at home. His family knows that he is a godly man. He assumes his rightful position of spiritual leadership in the home. He does not fail in this most important task. He does not delegate this awesome responsibility to his wife or to the Church. Happy and blessed is the home where the husband and father is a spiritual man. I must point out that the husband cannot be a good Christian and mistreat his wife and family. He may be a leader in the Church and have the re-spect of people outside of the home but he is a miserable failure if he is mean and cruel to his wife and kids. In fact, he is a total hypocrite if he parades around as a Christian in the Church and he is a tyrant at home. The family must have a spiritual man to lead the home. May God help husbands to be and become spiritual giants to their families. Remember, A Good Husband is a committed husband, a kind and considerate husband, and a spiritual husband.
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