Today I begin a new series on, "How To Have A Happy Home". Sadly to many of our homes are unhappy and full of conflict and strife. First, let me give you a brief overview of the things we will be discussing in the coming days. A happy home possess many things but, I will focus on four truths found in Ephesians chapter five and six. A Happy Home has Leadership, Involvement, Security, and Relationships. Lets begin with Leadership In The Home. I have four thoughts on this topic and I will present two of them in this section of Marital Moments and the additional two in the next installment. (1) Successful Leadership Follows God's Command. Ephesians 5: 22-23 gives us this important truth. There the Bible states, "wives submit yourselves unto the your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and He is the Saviour of the body". I know that this passage is hated by secular minded people today but, it is however, the Word of God and therefore still valid for marriages of all generations. God instituted the home and He knows the best and most productive way for it to operate. God has ordained that the husband lead the home. This in no way implies that the man is morally, spiritually, or in-tellectually superior to his wife. In fact she may far exceed him in these areas. However, she is to submit to his leadership. The Greek word translated "submit" means to "rank in order". The Greeks used it as a military term to describe the ranking of men in the service. They knew that someone must lead the army and others must follow if the military was to function properly. Likewise, if the home is to function properly, it must have leadership and others in the home must submit to that leadership. God plainly stated that the husband is to be the head and the wife is to submit to his leadership. He is to provide direction, instructions when needed, and guidance to the family. Sadly, to many men have defaulted on this important responsibility. They refuse to lead the home because they are to busy, to involved in sports activities, to glued to the television, or to lazy to accomplish this great task. If the husband doesn't lead then the wife must fulfill this necessary obligation. When that takes place your home is not functioning the way God ordained it. The wife must knowingly and intentionally submit to her hus-band. Notice, she is not to submit to every man. She is not to be treated like a servant but, rather like an equal partner in the martial relationship. She is not required to obey like a child. She is not to be ordered around for the husbands wishes and demands. The wife's responsibility before God is to lovingly submit to her husband as unto the Lord. The test of her submission will come when she disagrees with her husband's leadership. Of course you must never submit when-ever your husband is leading you to do anything that is displeasing to God or that will cause you to sin. Your greatest responsibility is to live in obedience to God. (2) Successful Leadership Operates On The Principal Of Love. The husband has the greatest responsibility in this relationship. The Bible states in Ephesians 5:25, "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the Church, and gave himself for it". The husband must provide loving servant leadership. The word "love" in the text is the highest expression of love in the Bible. It is that sacrificial love. Love that thinks not of itself, but is focused on the wife. It reaches out to her. It lives for her. Leadership without love is a cold tyrant, a cruel taskmaster. Leadership without love complains, criticizes, compares, and conquers. The husband is to love his wife as Christ loved the Church. How much did Christ love the Church? He loved the Church enough to die for her. Christ gave himself for the Church. He sacrificed for her. He is preparing a place for the Church. He longs to be with her. He thinks about her all the time. He wants the best for her. Christ doesn't fail in his responsibilities. He doesn't abandon the Church. He doesn't mistreat her. Husband, when you love your wife the way Christ loves the Church she will have little trouble submitting to that kind of loving servant leadership. This kind of love calls for your dedicated involvement. You cannot afford to fail in this important task. The success or failure of your home depends on the leadership you give your family. Make certain that it is loving leadership. That is the only kind of leadership that will meet the needs of the family.
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