I will continue on the subject of "Developing A Strong Marriage" with this important thought: A Strong Marriage must possess a Commitment To Meet The Needs Of Your Mate. In Genesis 2:18 God said, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him". Adam had named all the animals (Gen. 2:19) and he recognized that every animal had a mate except him-self. So God made a "help meet" for Adam. The words "help meet" means one suitable for him, corresponding to him, or one who assist another to reach com- plete fulfillment. The husband is to assist his wife in reaching her full po-tential. Likewise the wife is to help her husband reach complete fulfillment as well. Each partner comes to the marriage with individual needs that must be met by the other partner. Everyone has emotional needs, physical needs, social needs, and intellectual needs. These important needs are developed best in the marriage relationship. It is there that both husband and wife are able to help each other reach complete fulfillment. Sometimes you instinctively know what the needs are of your husband or wife. However, some needs you must learn by observation and others you must be taught by your spouse exactly what the need is and how to meet that specific need. This takes careful observation and steadfast commitment on your part if you are able to meet your wife or husband's needs. In his book, His Needs, Her Needs, Willard Harley list five basic needs for both husband and wife. For the wife Mr. Harley suggest that she needs (1) Affection, (2) Conver-sation, (3) Honesty and openness, (4) Financial support, and (5) Family commit-ment. The husband, according to Mr. Harley's book, needs (1) Sex, (2) Re-creational companionship, (3) An attractive spouse, (4) Domestic support, and (5) Admiration. Having observed couples for a number of years, I readily agree with his assessment of the needs of both wife and husband. These needs cannot be met alone. Each partner needs the commitment of each other in faithfully and fully meeting these important needs. I must give you a strong word of caution: If you consistently fail to meet the needs of your spouse you discourage the heart of your mate. Tragically, a long-term neglect of important needs could provide opp-ortunity for someone else to meet the needs outside of the martial relationship. This must not be allowed to happen. Purpose in your heart to fulfill every legiti-mate need of your husband or wife. Remember, if you are going to Develop A Strong Marriage, then you must be Committed To Meeting The Needs Of Your Mate.
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