I want to continue our discussion on the topic of "Peace In The Home". Our text verse, Philippians 4:7, states, "And the peace of God which passeth all under-standing shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus". As previously noted I believe that you will have Peace In The Home when you Put God First, when you Focus On The Really Important Things, and when you Release The Past. This Marital Moment will focus on this important thought: To have Peace In The Home you must Reduce The Conflict In The Home. In Philippians 4:2 there were two women in the Church who were having conflict in their relation-ship. Sadly their conflict seemed to have spilled over into the Church. The Bible implores them to "Be of the same mind in the Lord". The words "same mind" means to be in agreement. They had their differences, perhaps jealous, envy, anger, or harsh words that had marred and scarred their unity. The writer of Philippians does not take sides in the disagreement. However, he does appeal to the highest motive by encouraging them to be of one mind in the Lord. No marriage is without conflict. Each home will face its days of trouble and dif-ficult. We all see things differently, we all think differently, and we all come from different backgrounds. Therefore we find that when difficult and trying times come we often take our disappointments, anger, and bitterness out on our family members. Simple discussion soon becomes full blown arguments that lead to screaming, fighting, ignoring, and pouting. These "heated discussions" not only destroy the peace in your home but they affect your children, job, health, and your relationship. You must do as the Bible states, "Be of the same mind in the Lord". Do not allow conflict to destroy the peace in your home. Guard your heart and your home and never allow problems and difficulties to rob you of this peace that passeth understanding. Since conflict is a part of all marriages I want to take a moment to give you some thoughts on how to resolve conflict in the home. (1) Communication. Take the time to talk through the problems that come your way. Discuss them in an open and kind manner. Never allow the communica-tion process to result in arguments and fights. (2) Commitment. A steadfast commitment to solve the problem. You should do more than just talk about the conflict. You must commit yourself to solving the problem. A strong commitment will help you to focus on the problem, to decide on a course of action, and to establish obtainable goals that will assure you of success. (3) Counseling. Some problems may not be solvable without professional counseling. If your conflict is continuing in spite of all your efforts, then you should seek professional help in dealing with your problems. (4) Christ. One of the best ways to solve problems is to consult with the Creator. Let Christ be a managing partner in your home. Give Christ full control of your life, your heart, and your home. You can only have lasting peace when you have Christ. He is the Prince of Peace. He is the only One that can give peace to troubled hearts. Pray to Him daily. Ask His counsel and advice on how to conduct your home. As a family you should have a time daily to pray unto God. It is extremely difficult, if not impossible, to be at odds with your spouse and children when you are regularly and continually praying with them. Remember, if you would have "Peace In The Home" then you must Reduce The Conflict In The Home.
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